I never thought about what exactly is the most important in life … is it relationships with someone, or maybe it’s just having sex and making things that you adore or is it a big snatch of money. The list of indispensable is different for each of us, but is it possible that we have some common?
When I’m in relationship with someone it’s hard to tell if I’m happy… at the certain point I’m sure I am, but will it last forever. When you’re fifteen or something you believe in that his the one, but the worst thing that you believe in is his the one forever. Forget it! Totally forget about it! It’s beautiful for fairytale, but considering the real life it won’t work like this.
Think about how hard is it to be with someone for 20 years and what if you like to make a career? Will you have a support from that person or you’ll have to quit a job and be a housewife.
So what is really important for modern women?
A long time ago, there won’t be such questions, but in today’s life you need to pay bills, you want to go in spa, you like to travel, to go clubbing, to watch movie, to buy fashionable houses, designer clothes… there a lot things that you can do in the modern world, so will the love always stand on the first place no matter what?
The independence, this is exactly what can build and at the same time ruin all the relationships. We all want to be independent if not now, than in the future some of us certainly will. To be the master of yourself doesn’t mean that you can’t be in love it just helps you to be in love with yourself on the first place.
We got used to working mothers and fathers, children staying with nannies and that’s all again only because of desire to be independent.
One of my friends put her life straight by that line. Is she happy? In some point she is, but does she feel herself like real women, I doubt it. However, she has stable life with insurance, that if her love will go away, she will never be on the street.
